Top 10 TIPS For "Safe Online Dating" in Kamloops BC.
Meeting and relating with other local "Kamloops Singles" online, using mymatchmaking.com offers you a fun and secure environment. Building loving and trusting realationships is very easy and can lead to long lasting real life relationships. Please use sound judgement, common sense, and be responsible whether you decide to correspond with members online or meeting members offline. In both the virtual and real worlds, common sense is your best safety tool.
Remember, Liars, cheaters and imposters that prawl in nightclubs or you see sitting across from you at your local cafe certainly use the web to their advantage. Where ever you are or how ever you meet someone, dating is not always a safe activity. Some cautions should be taken to reduse any risk you may be at while dating.
Here are your top 10 online dating tips:
(1) Guard Your Anonymity. When you start corresponding with others on an online dating site, do not reveal any personal contact information about you. Never include your last name, real email address, personal Web site address, home address, phone number, place of work, or any other identifying information in your profile or initial emails you exchange with other members. Make sure your email signature file is turned off, or does not include identifying information, when corresponding with someone new. Immediately stop all communication with anyone who tries to pressure you for this information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it. Take all the time you need to become comfortable with someone before revealing any person contact information. Ask questions and make sure you are satisfied with the answers. Trust your instincts, move cautiously and be selective.
(2) Don't rush, start slow. Be aware of someone who seems to good to be true, the person may not be who or what he/she says. First begin communicating solely via email. Watch out for inconsistencies or odd behavior. If anything makes you uncomfortable, trust your instincts and walk away, for your own protection and safety. Next, you can communicate via the telephone.
(3) Exercise Caution and Common Sense. Careful, well-thought decisions generally lead to better results in dating, and this is certainly true with online dating too. Guard against trusting the untrustworthy. Any suitor must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Your job is to take all the time you need to test for a trustworthy person, and pay careful attention along the way. Take a relatively conservative approach to trusting anyone you meet online. If you think someone is lying, it is likely that they are, so act accordingly. Move on to someone you can eventually trust. Conduct yourself and your romances in a responsible manner. Don't fall in love at the click of a mouse. Don't become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online.
(4) Ask for a photo. A photo will help you in achieving a gut feeling about your correspondent, it will give you a good idea of the person's appearance and what they look like. If he or she continously comes up with an excuse, it may be because they have something to hide. Getting a photo scanned is less than ten dollars at a local photo copy place, so there is little excuse for not doing it.
(5) Talk Via Telephone. A phone call can reveal much about a person's communication and social skills. It is worth the cost of the call to protect your security. But do not give out your personal phone number to a stranger. Use *67 before you dial their number. That blocks out your phone number if they have call display. You can even try a pay phone or cell phone instead. Only when you feel completely comfortable should you give a stranger your personal phone number.
(6) The beauty of meeting and relating online is that you can gradually collect information and then make a choice about pursuing the relationship in the real world. You are never obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy. And even if you do decide to arrange a meeting, you always have the right to change your mind. It's possible that your decision to keep the relationship at the anonymous level is based on a hunch that you can't logically explain. Trust yourself. Go with your gut instincts, even when they can't be logically explained. Never meet someone who argues against your instincts, finds logical flaws with your feelings or pressures you in any way. Meet someone only when you are ready to meet!
(7) Watch for Red Flags. Pay close attention to any displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts at pressuring or controlling you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags. You should also be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following conduct without providing an acceptable explanation:
If they provide inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc.
If they refuse to speak to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy.
If they fail to provide direct answers to direct questions.
If they appear in person to be significantly different from his or her online personal profile
If they never introduce you to friends, or family members.
(8) You pick the location and make sure you select the Safest Possible Environment. When you make the choice to meet offline, always tell others where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date's name and telephone number with someone. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time when many people are present, and when the date is over, leave on your own as well. A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, at a time when a lot of other people will be present is often a fine choice. Avoid hikes, bike rides or drives in remote areas for the first few dates. If you decide to move to another location, take your own car. When the timing is appropriate, thank your date for getting together and say goodbye.
(9) Take Extra Caution Outside Your Area. If you are flying in from another area, arrange for your own car and a hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. Rent a car at the airport and drive directly to your hotel. Call your date from the hotel or meet at the location you have already agreed to. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location, or leave a message on a home machine. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. And if possible, carry a cell phone at all times.
(10) Get Yourself Out of a Jam. Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else on the scene for help, or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you are in danger call the police. It's always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior. Your safety is much more important than one person's opinion of you. |
